We are a culture obsessed with strength. Only our perception of strength is limited and often harms our physical structure.
Let’s say a woman has low back pain. This pain could be mildly nagging to moderate to severe and altering the quality of her life. Upon palpation we could discover that her SI Joint, that beautiful triangular-shaped bone at the end of her spine, is off, not centered, pulling on the tissue (the low back muscles and fascia) above. To alleviate her low back pain, we concentrate on stabilizing her SI joint by targeting the glute muscles in the lower body.
As we start to palpate the glute muscles, with no more than the weight of a fingertip, she may wince in pain. As we talk and I explain the area is hypertonic, or in a chronic state of contraction, tight and tense, a lack of blood flow, a nervous system that is communicating stress. I can’t tell you how many women in this situation then reply, “Well isn’t having a tight butt a good thing?” We laugh and I explain that isn’t necessarily the case.
Muscles need strength. But they also need softness. Buoyancy. Muscles should feel lubricated, easily sliding and gliding past one another. To achieve an optimal state of being, it is important to talk about buoyancy and slide and glide as much as strength.
Your low back is full of sensory nerve endings, your body developed in this way because it cares about how you feel. This may seem like a tangent but it’s important to always consider that our culture is obsessed with how we look, and much of the available knowledge about the body is framed it in terms of washboard abs and fitting into tight leggings, rather than centered on how we actually feel.
Companies focus heavily on appearance and “preparing for swim suit season” even when advertising products such as new herbal medicine. Yes, herbs could improve our well-being but ironically, the way the product is advertsied is hurting us; training us to place health on the back burner, and looks at the forefront of our decisions making.
In discussions on fitness, “strength” is often coded language really promising that “you will look better”. In a truly healthy culture, the way we look is a natural extension of how we feel. We feel good and we love our body as it takes the shape of those feelings.
The optimal body does not have a certain appearance, but it is free of pain and nagging discomfort. And the inside mechanics of the body is absolutely fascinating, and so much more complex than “building strength” alone can fix.
Strength is not the answer. Strength is just one of your many needs and strength must be balanced with relaxation, softness, and ease of movement. In the example above, a woman’s tight glute muscles were pulling on her SI joint, which in turn was signaling to the sensory low back that there was stress, an immediate need, to fix the mechanics that were going wrong. She mistook her tight glutes as necessary, she had never been told that strength needed to be balanced with softness.
Which brings us to The Kegel Myth.
In a culture obsessed with strength, the answer to all things pelvic floor is Kegels. And yes, like all muscles, your pelvic floor needs to be strong. A quick Google search can find us a variety of ways to strengthen the pelvic floor. We can join group fitness classes in person or online that talk about engaging the pelvic floor with smart core strengthening exercises. Pilates, yoga, and barre classes are all fitness choices that create pelvic floor strength.
And yet, most pelvic floor issues result from tension and tightness. Pelvic floor muscles with trigger points (heightened zones of electrical activity) that are pulling on the structures above. A tight pelvic floor also pulls on the SI joint, causing low back pain. A tight pelvic floor pulls on the bladder, causing bladder leakage and varied types of pain. Women may describe burning around the bladder, sharp bladder sensations, or feelings of bladder infection without the presence of infection. Or due to a tight pelvic floor stressing the bladder actual infections may come and go (more on this in another post).
Here is the visual I often give in the office: Imagine a tight bicep. Think Popeye, when the bicep is tight and tense the fibers will be pulled together, interlocking and creating some degree of a “hypertonic bulge”. The muscle is chronically tight, unable to release and relax. Your brain knows things are going wrong, it tracks the bicep, and the brain is sending pain signals. Because the brain “does not feel safe” in this area of the body your range of motion is decreased. As you go throughout your day, your body starts compensating, now other muscles are being worked incorrectly or overused. In the future, you will feel more pain.
Now what if someone told you the way out of this bicep problem was through strength training? To lift weights. To take a muscle whose fibers are already in a state of tension, a muscle whose fibers are pulled tight together, and crunch them together even more? That seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it? And yet, that is the blanket advice we give women experiencing pelvic floor related tension or illness such as bladder leakage. And yes, I am labeling bladder leakage as an illness because well...it is. Bladder leakage is a sign of being unwell, and if left unheaded, the symptoms can worsen. What started as “just some bladder leakage” can become a lot of bladder leakage, pain with vaginal insertion, or eventually prolapse.
Kegel’s are not personalized advice. It’s a one-size-fits-all approach to pelvic floor health that leaves many many women worse off than when they started. For many women, they will be tightening an area that needs relaxation. Some women have a pelvic floor that is tight on one side but weak on the other. Some women have a pelvic floor that is weak because it is burnt out from chronic tension. Some women may have bladder leakage and a tight pelvic floor and then do Kelgels and increase the tension to the point where the bladder is now held so tight that bladder leakage stops but urine retention begins. Just doing Kegels--without understanding your individual needs or even just broadly understanding what creates holistic neuromuscular health-- can increase tension in a way that causes long-term issues.
Be calm. Dont worry. Stress is not a friend to the pelvic floor ;) Another blog post will soon explain more about what you should be doing to create a healthy pelvic floor structure. In the meantime, just explore what strength means to you. Your mind is not separate from any part of your physical body and having a conversation with tense muscles is a powerful form of healing. Ask yourself, is it possible that my pelvic floor is tight? How can I slowly teach the area to soften using my mind and breath?
Tell yourself that strength is not found in tension. That you can let go. The act of allowing yourself to become soft is an act of growth and for many women cultivating emotional and spiritual strength is the ultimate act of long-term pelvic floor healing.
All is changeable. All is changing.
Peace & Love,
Tara
*Author Tara Lee Clasen is a manual massage therapist specializing in women's health and pain conditions related to the pelvic floor, neck, jaw & shoulder. She also trained in clinical Ayurveda and has authored a book on Ayurveda called The Elemental Woman.
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